Growing up we are often told we have a purpose or a passion that will define our lives. All we have to do is find it and follow it. Through self inquiry and seeking new experiences many people do find a calling. But…what if you don’t have one?
Wait. That’s right. Not everyone has something they are passionate about.
Elizabeth Gilbert, the writer, discovered this when she traveled the country speaking at events about passion. She had a lifelong passion for her writing, and urged everyone to follow theirs. She did not realize that some people were born without a passion or never found one.
People Who Don’t Have A Passion
Lacking a passion might make you feel directionless, like you have missed the boat in life. This can cause:
What To Do Instead
When Gilbert realized this, she reconsidered her advice to “follow your passion” and found a brilliant workaround: follow your curiosity. This became her new mantra. If you can’t find a passion, follow your curiosity instead. She expounds on this in her book Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear (I HIGHLY recommend this one).
What really fascinates me about this idea is that it taps into how human beings are biologically hard-wired. Curiosity is an evolutionary imperative. It is the start of all advancements and inventions. Today’s status quo only exists because of our ancestors, who were curious enough to do things that changed the world.
If you feel like you were born without a passion, don’t fear. It is ok! You’re not doing anything wrong, despite what all those cringey motivational posters say. You haven’t missed the boat. It is normal to not be driven toward one singular thing that you love with all your heart. But if you look deep down inside yourself, you will likely find a flicker of curiosity about something. Chase that instead. Follow ever flicker of curiosity that seems interesting enough to you and see where it leads. You never know.